Know anyone who is angry about being fired, or about a failed business or a disappointing relationship? Do you see how that anger continues to cripple that individual – not the company, the business partner or the brother-in-law – but the individual holding on to the anger? That anger saps creativity, causes attempts at goodness to appear artificial and renders a split soul.
The #1 characteristic of highly successful people is “integrity” as documented in The Millionaire Mind by Thomas Stanley. Integrity means whole, unbroken, undivided. It describes a person who has united the parts of his or her being into a spiritually rich and unified wholeness.
At the Passover Seder, when Jews celebrate the memory of their exodus from Egypt, they taste a bitter herb to recall the old days of slavery, but then immediately override that bitter taste with matzo and wine, symbols of liberation.
We all have situations in our lives where we have to choose between the seductive appeal of getting even, attractive but harmful to our “integrity,” and the cleansing power of forgiveness and moving forward. You give up power by remaining resentful – and regain strength and authority by not giving in to the temptation to get even.
Have a little matzo and wine tonight and walk into tomorrow with your head held high.